“How was the last night sleeping in your childhood home?” my mom asked on my final trip to Baltimore before my parents will move out of the house they lived in for the past 35 years.
“Meh ” I shrugged.
My dad laughed and said “That’s the thing about milestones, as you get older they lose some of their impact.” Or maybe he said “Did you really finish all the M&M’S last night?” and I just imagined a more philosophical response.
Kind of depressing, right? This was the conversation that occupied my thoughts as I ran through the surrounding valley that encompasses the neighborhood I grew up in. And by neighborhood I mean a few streets with scattered houses surrounded by horse farms, woods with endless trails, and a couple ponds thrown into the countryside for good measure. They like it old school in Baldwin, MD. There still is not a stop light in the 13909 zip code.
External milestones feel less dramatic than they once did. Of course the big comings and goings still get me all choked up. Recently celebrated weddings, births, and adoptions might even be more meaningful knowing how precious and singular these events are. But these days it is the internal milestones that leave greater impressions on me. Deciding to play to win instead of not to lose. Knowing which flaws I might fix in this lifetime and which flaws I need to learn to live with, while taking responsibility for all of them. Loving someone or something for what they can give without needing more.
Funny, Hallmark has yet to create a greeting card for these moments.
Sugar and Black Pepper Body Scrub
I recommend starting with whole peppercorns and grinding your black pepper with a mortar and pestle to release the healing essentials oils of the pepper. Mix. Scrub. Rinse. Black pepper is stimulating and healing for aching muscles. Especially good for growing pains caused from life milestones (internal or external).